We can learn so much by embracing and appreciating the differences in others and points of contention and disagreement. Look for what is right and beautiful and unique, not what hurts or what is wrong or reasons to be offended. Loving others who cause us pain or injustice and seeing them through God's us helps us grow and become stronger and more at peace. Appreciate them anyway; God uses everything to bless us and for good, to help us grow and be prepared for our Kingdom destiny.