Leaders have a responsibility to do the right thing and to live by the truth, even if doing the truly right thing by others, seemingly (from the leaders perspective) is not directly beneficial to attaining the goal, receiving recognition, or increasing gains and profit.
"it is for God to conceal a matter and for kings to seek it out"......when we do the right thing, according to the law of love, we are forced to press in to God for understanding.........he always meets us there. It's how we protect those we lead.......learning to follow the Truth that quietly speaks or nudges our hearts instead of listing to our heads, following and bellowing out one great idea after another to get ourselves ahead and closer to the goal........
But if we behold the Lord, focus on who we are based on who He is, and not just one or two aspects of who He is.....yes He is strength and authority and courage and boldness, but He is also love, gentleness, peace, rest, light, comfort, and restoration.........(there is no harshness or pressure (pressing) or selfish ambition.....Matthew 11:28), we will be like Him.
In fact, and this one took me so long to see, Jesus didn't try to change or influence people........He simply spoke the Truth and let it take root where it was received, and let it drop to the ground where it was rejected......it was simply that. So, if Jesus didn't scrutinize and exult himself and impose Himself on others, how can we?
What if there is another way to lead?
What if all our efforts go towards being who God says we are, our intimacy with Him, and our focus on love and humility........using only words spoken in love and gentleness meant solely for building up and empowering, encouraging and restoring......releasing people to operate in their gifts and strengths and honoring all............restoring and conferring honor and significance so that those we lead can see clearly enough to fulfill the call of God on their lives, rather than forcing them to respond to our call on their lives.
Can we really say of every person we know in the body that each is valuable just as they are ( without changing). That each one is truly significant no matter their work ethic, position, finances, or status? If we cannot be honest with ourselves here and admit that we do look down on those we feel do not measure up according to standards we establish, then we are operating under a spirit of pride and deception and we fool only ourselves. You see, when we are willing to admit this, pride is broken and true humility begins. And it is only at that point that we can begin to see our true selves, through Gods eyes, and then others accordingly.
You see, in the Kingdom of God, all are significant; there are ONLY sons and daughters, princes and princesses.........and so we must be honorable in our hearts, words, and actions to all.
Fooling ourselves isn't based in what we do though it manifests that way it seems.........fooling ourselves is rooted in who we are, or who we think we are, because our focus is on our performance and the performance of others, not on our being, or their being. YET, it is our being that God is most concerned with!
And our being begins with our view of God, focusing on who He is, what He is doing, rather than what we are or are not doing........we have it backwards and that is why it gets so clogged up and frustrating.........

Leadership is influence, true, but we are not to seek leadership. We are instructed to seek 1st the kingdom of God (HIS ways of doing and being right) then all these things shall be added unto you! So, if we seek wisdom as for gold, silver and treasure (proverbs 2-3) Gods wisdom, not man's........He'll surely reveal it to us and He will confer on us all the promises that He has declared over that in His Word, including leadership and influence.....
However, when we do it this way, on Gods time and in His way rather than grabbing for it and striving for it on our own, it is richer and long lasting (proverbs 28), because we have to endure Gods training and timing in the process as He builds into us, prepares us, and develops within us all we need to fulfill our calling His way. Not only that, but leadership or influence will be conferred without the path of wasted life, relationships and destruction along the way....... This is truly faith.......faith not only "works" as we so often hear ( faith without works is dead).....faith also rests. 

These are my Core Values, the foundation upon which we build our family, home, business, and future, the foundation from which we serve.

Whoever pursues righteousness and love
finds life, prosperity and honor. (Proverbs 21:21 NIV)



1. Gods word is true: God is who he says he is and he will do what he says he will do.

2. I will make decisions based on prayerful consideration and the way of peace, not pressure, popularity, physical appearance, perceived personal gain, or the opinions of others. If I don't have peace, it's no-go.

3. If it doesn't line up with the word or it violates the law of love I want nothing to do with it.

4. Seek 1st the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added to you

5. I refuse to violate the freedom of others through pressure, intolerance, expectation....my job is to offer, my job is to love and encourage--to share the truth, my job is to deliver the message.....I offer and do, people can do what they want with it. I'm not responsible for the emotions and actions of others.

6. I will see others through Gods eyes.....I will see them through the potential He put in them.

7. I live to please and serve Him....not man. I don't care what other people think.

8. We all have a gift...God builds lines of sponsorship and everyone has something to bring to the table. The Los should stay in tact at all cost so the anointing and blessing can flow. Playing favorites, exulting one at the cost of another is always harmful. Everyone has a role.

9. I will not sacrifice my family, my values, or others' self images on the alter of success.

10. There are none insignificant in the kingdom of God, only sons and daughters, only princes and princesses. I am nobility and I will walk and live and treat others within the code of honor because I deserve it. My association, who I spend time with, and where I walk will not change or compromise who I am. 

Humans are satisfied with whatever looks good; God probes for what is good.
Put God in charge of your work, then what you've planned will take place.
A good leader motivates, doesn't mislead, doesn't exploit.
God cares about honesty in the workplace; your business is his business.
Good leaders abhor wrongdoing of all kinds; sound leadership has a moral foundation.
Good leaders cultivate honest speech; they love advisors who tell them the truth.
An intemperate leader wreaks havoc in lives; you're smart to stay clear of someone like that.
Good-tempered leaders invigorate lives; they're like spring rain and sunshine. (Proverbs 16:2, 3, 10-15 MSG)

Patient persistence pierces through indifference;
gentle speech breaks down rigid defenses. (Proverbs 25:15 MSG)

A quiet rebuke to a person of good sense does more than a whack on the head of a fool. Whitewashing bad people and throwing mud on good people are equally abhorrent to God. A bad motive can't achieve a good end; double-talk brings you double trouble. The one who knows much says little; an understanding person remains calm. (Proverbs 17:10, 15, 20, 27 MSG)

Like the horizons for breadth and the ocean for depth,
the understanding of a good leader is broad and deep. (Proverbs 25:3 MSG)


Don’t work yourself into the spotlight;
don’t push your way into the place of prominence. (Proverbs 25:6 MSG)......
It’s better to be promoted to a place of honor
than face humiliation by being demoted. (Proverbs 25:7 MSG)


Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that. (Ephesians 5:2 MSG)

And don't let anyone put you down because you're young. Teach believers with your life: by word, by demeanor, by love, by faith, by integrity.
Stay at your post reading Scripture, giving counsel, teaching.
And that special gift of ministry you were given when the leaders of the church laid hands on you and prayed-keep that dusted off and in use.
Cultivate these things. Immerse yourself in them. The people will all see you mature right before their eyes!
Keep a firm grasp on both your character and your teaching. Don't be diverted. Just keep at it. Both you and those who hear you will experience salvation. (1 Timothy 4:12-16 MSG)

Do what is right and good in the Lord's sight, so that it may go well with you and you may go in and take over the good land the Lord promised on oath to your ancestors, thrusting out all your enemies before you, as the Lord said. (Deuteronomy 6:18, 19 NIV)

A true witness never lies; a false witness makes a business of it. Escape quickly from the company of fools; they're a waste of your time, a waste of your words.
The gullible believe anything they're told; the prudent sift and weigh every word.
The wise watch their steps and avoid evil; fools are headstrong and reckless.
Hard work always pays off; mere talk puts no bread on the table. Souls are saved by truthful witness and betrayed by the spread of lies.
God-devotion makes a country strong; God-avoidance leaves people weak.
Diligent work gets a warm commendation; shiftless work earns an angry rebuke. (Proverbs 14:5, 7, 15, 16, 23, 25, 34, 35 MSG)

A God-loyal life keeps you on track; sin dumps the wicked in the ditch.
A pretentious, showy life is an empty life; a plain and simple life is a full life.
Arrogant know-it-alls stir up discord, but wise men and women listen to each other's counsel.
Ignore the Word and suffer; honor God's commands and grow rich.
 A good life gets passed on to the grandchildren; ill-gotten wealth ends up with good people.
 refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them. (Proverbs 13:6, 7, 10, 13, 22, 24 MSG)

If you love learning, you love the discipline that goes with it-how shortsighted to refuse correction!
A good person basks in the delight of God, and he wants nothing to do with devious schemers.
You can't find firm footing in a swamp, but life rooted in God stands firm.
Better to be ordinary and work for a living than act important and starve in the process.
Well-spoken words bring satisfaction; well-done work has its own reward.
Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug off insults.
Truthful witness by a good person clears the air, but liars lay down a smoke screen of deceit.
Rash language cuts and maims, but there is healing in the words of the wise.
Truth lasts; lies are here today, gone tomorrow. God can't stomach liars; he loves the company of those who keep their word.
Prudent people don't flaunt their knowledge; talkative fools broadcast their silliness. (Proverbs 12:1-3, 9, 14, 16-19, 22, 23 MSG)